Learning the Cha Cha

My last entry seems, as I read it today, to be quite blunt. This is uncharacteristic of me. But I think that there are certain times when we need to be blunt in order to get a point across. At other times, diplomacy is the best bet.

So how do we decide when to be blunt and when to be diplomatic? I usually base it on the degree of illusion and denial that I have to cut through. I also appreciate it when my own illusions and denials are cut through by someone else's bluntness. It saves on years of therapy later in life!

I don't think that we should ever have to pussy foot around any subject matter in life. I have always appreciated when people have been forthright and honest with me. I always do my best to afford others the same courtesy. Some, however, don't want that courtesy. These folks would prefer that we indulge their fantasy realities so that they can actually coast through life in a very lazy manner, much like those who are bumped up to the next grade level in school just so that the teacher doesn't have to deal with them for yet another year. Some call it stream lining. I call it stupidity. Since when does life afford us the luxury of laziness when it comes to personal development? If we don't continually strive to improve ourselves on a daily basis, we end up in a cloud of self-deception, expecting others to totally buy into that deception in their own realities as well.

I say, "Cut the crap!" and get to the point. No fluff is needed when there are serious life lessons that are to be learned. Perhaps that is why it often feels like at 45 years of age I have already lived several lifetimes in one. I just jump in and get to the business of learning. Tonight, I jumped in and got to the business of learning the Cha Cha. This is a dance I have always enjoyed watching, but was never taught. It was scary at first, but once the foot work finally came to me, the rest seems to want to fall into place. That is the way life is. If we just pick it up at some point, the rest will unfold.

Blessed Be

Trent

www.deerhornshamanic.com

Time Flies Like An Arrow

And Fruit Flies like a banana! These are simple truths. When we can accept the simple truths in life, our lives become much easier. My beautiful niece has been visiting over the weekend. While visiting we did a LOT of talking. My Love recommended a book titled "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. This book is a MUST HAVE handbook for every woman on the dating scene and every woman who is married and every woman who has ever had anything at all to do with any man in her life.

What women need to realize is that they have been living a fantasy for most of their realities. There really is no Cinderella fairy tale ending. Most men are just wanting to get laid. They will do anything they can do get laid and say anything that they think (or know) a woman wants to hear in order to get laid. They will not call the next day. They rarely will put any more into the relationship than they absolutely have to in order to ensure that they will still, at the end of the day, get laid. Women deserve much better than that.

He ain't pretty, he just looks that way. Women need to look for character in their men. Unfortunately, many men in Western culture have been overly indulged and therefore get away with the feeling of entitlement to whatever they want whenever they want it no matter who they may be hurting in the process. These men have not learned how to really be men. They may have man sized bodies, but they are about as mature as the common five year old. So don't hold your breath waiting for him to call, and don't let him into your bank accounts. Don't expect him to want to be with you instead of going to the football game with his buddies. And until he steps up to the plate without encouragement on your part, do not EVER make the mistake of thinking that you are important, because the simple truth is that he is "just not that into you."

Sorry to burst a bunch of bubbles out there. Read the book. You will get it...eventually.

Blessed Be

Trent

www.deerhornshamanic.com