It saddens me that yet another citizen of our province, after suffering years of abuse from her husband, was killed by him last week. This is a subject that is all too near to my heart, having had a sister who was in an abusive relationship. She was, after years, able to get out with her life. But back then there were no resources for battered women. Now days there are. She was a big part of creating shelters for women and children of abuse in our province.
What angers me the most is that this particular woman aparently showed up to work on a regular basis with bruises all over her and no one bothered to help her. It seems that the old "I don't want to be a part of this" denial system is still rampant. It is sad and pathetic because, with the right amount of support, this woman could have lived.
Yes, she ran from him. After he killed her dog who was trying to protect her, she ran for her life. But she, like so many other women in our world, never made it to help. He ran her down and stabbed her to death.
There is a large part of me that knows there is a special place in Hell for idiots like him. That doesn't bring much comfort though. Nor will it bring much comfort to her friends or family. I hope that he is prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I hope that he spends a LOT of time behind bars and that when he dies he rots in Hell.
I also hope that everyone around her learns from this. I hope that this will inspire people to stand up for abuse victims. It doesn't matter what age, gendre, or race they are. If they are being abused and we know about it, then we need to help them.
I know why people don't step up. It is because to acknowledge an issue and help someone to become empowered means that we are automatically challenged to take responsibility. We don't have to take responsibility for the abuse itself. We need to simply respond to the situation and help in whatever way we can. But empowering others as well as ourselves does indeed come with responsibility. So get ready. If you are ever going to be strong and powerful you will have to step up to that, come what may. You will have to help others and you will have to see it through to the end.