Tuesday, June 24, 2008

The Gift of Deception

Have you ever had one of those moments when you realize that you have been snowed? I mean completely, thoroughly snowed? I have. So what do these moments mean? Why is it that we can be so deceived by another?

One reason is innocence. The other reason is denial. When we allow ourselves to become deceived, we allow ourselves to experience something that will hone our senses about who we really are and what we really believe. Yes, the individual or group who deceives us has no right to do that to us. And yes we need to look at what it was inside ourselves that made us such an easy target.

So often we get snowed because we are in a place of innocence and wouldn't for a minute think that someone would mean us any harm. Then we experience the slap upside the head as we find out that not everyone in the world has benevolent intentions. Our hearts get broken and we think that we will never experience trust again. The total disillusionment is just that, the complete destruction of the illusions we held onto so tightly that led us to the moment of truth.

We also get fooled because we don't want to see what is right in front of our faces. Our best friends can see it. If they are truly good friends they will broach the subject with us so that we get a different perspective. If we are truly good friends we will seriously consider what the friend is saying and not attack them for speaking their truth. The denial aspect happens in many cases because of some serious hard wiring in our brains that has to do with who our parents are or what our parents believed about us. But we can't just blame our parents. There comes a time in everyone's life when we have to stop snowing ourselves and see what is right in front of us, and this can not be done unless we are willing to own our own "stuff" regardless of what our parents taught us.

So the next time you experience getting snowed, just remember to first look at yourself and see what it was inside that set up the situation in the first place. To only point at the other person does no justice to the situation at all. We also have, in the act itself of pointing, four other fingers pointing right back at ourselves!

Blessed Be

Trent Deerhorn


1 comment:

Gail said...

The "gift" of deception is the one gift that sits unopened, until you've unwrapped all the nicer lookin' ones and you can't avoid opening this one any longer. And when you do, it's with trepidation and shaking fingers, 'cause you're not quite sure what you're going to find under the wrapping paper...