So often we find ourselves peeking out at the world from within a hole we crawled into to get away from the world. Most often we end up in that hole as a result of accepting someone else's beliefs about who we are. Most often those beliefs are projection of that person's own circumstances and have nothing to do with us at all. I recently had an experience like that. I chose to not hide in a hole.
A dear friend informed me that someone she knows has been trashing me. This person is someone who has never taken the time to get to know me. She simply has beliefs that are a little strange to me. Do I worry about this type of person? Well, why would I? She only harms herself every time she trashes me. People are not stupid. They can tell, like my friend did, that this person is wacked and they know that what she says is more indicative of who she is that who I am.
When something like this happens, however, I always look into what it is inside of me that resonated in such a way as to either draw the situation to me or even just to draw the disclosure to me. In much searching I found a wee twist in this. You see, what drew it out of the woodwork was my own personal quest for truth and authenticity. This quest brought up as well the antithesis of truth and authenticity so that I could see it. One must, after all, explore things from many different angles and through many different viewing lenses! It is like when someone is searching for love and gets a bunch of lessons in what love is not. The experience sucks but the lessons are invaluable!
What I am most grateful for is the friend who was courageous enough to disclose this to me. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have shown me your own authenticity and strength in doing this. You have shown me that I can trust you. You have shown me that you have my back, and so I also have yours!
Just be yourself. Seek your truth and your authenticity within and let small minds go by the wayside. They don't know you and never will if they spout off the way this particular woman has done. You are bigger than that. Don't let a small mind hinder your great spirit.