Sunday, October 3, 2010

Grieving


We all grieve in our own way. Some curl up into a fetus position and sob, others pour themselves into their work, others take time to contemplate life and its fragility. A good friend of mine died recently. I will miss him. But I have not shed a tear about his passing. He had a long struggle with cancer. I know he is no longer in pain and this makes me happy for him. I miss his voice and his humour and his laughter.

At his service, people were looking at me and some even approached me about why I was so even in my emotions. I don't like to be really public about my deepest feelings. I work them through way before such services so that I don't have to take facial tissue with me to the event. I don't like it when my face leaks. For me, that is a more private thing that I will experience in the safety of my own home. This is also what makes me really good at performing services as well. I allow others to do the emotional stuff and I stay on track with the program. Understand that it is not at all that I think any less of anyone who can openly cry at events such as this. It is just that it is not my personal cup of tea. I am also not saying that I won't or don't cry. I do. I just do it when it feels right, and doing it publicly has never felt right.

So now life goes on without my friend. That is okay. I was not able to see him much in the last number of months anyway. But I also said goodbye to him privately moments after his passing. So I am good with it all. I look forward to meeting him again in another life and seeing how far he has come since our last meeting. I think we will likely have a tea together and chat about lots of Universal things.

Blessed Be
Trent
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2 comments:

Katrinka said...

"Understand that it is not at all that I think any less of anyone who can openly cry at events such as this. It is just that it is not my personal cup of tea. I am also not saying that I won't or don't cry. I do. I just do it when it feels right, and doing it publicly has never felt right."

Well said. This is exactly how I feel about weeping in public. Nothing wrong with it, but I'll swallow a baseball before I'll do it.

Gail said...

The energetic connections between us never break; we've just been told otherwise. I "understand" the connection you have with your friend who recently crossed over - it was made long before the two of you 'met' in this lifetime. It is what will pull the two of you together again to have tea and discuss Universal things.
A bistro on a cobbled street in Italy. A flock of pigeons have just been disturbed and have taken flight; a small child laughs in delight to see the birds scattering before him; you and your friend sit at a small round table, waiting for the waiter to bring the tea. You are both elderly and have enjoyed lives jam-packed with joy and miracles. Now, as you sit sipping your tea, you and your friend begin to plan out the next phase of your existence on the other side of the Veil.
Thank you for this post, Trent.