There are 4 Rivers that we all experience in life. The River of Inspiration, the River of Love, the River of Challenge and the River of Surprise. I spoke about Inspiration in a recent blog, but tonight I would like to speak about the River of Love.
The River of Love is a bit of a tricky one. You see, this river teaches us, through life experience, what love is, and what love is not. The people that we meet along this river may have our best interests at heart, but some may not. The thing is, whether we learn about what love truly is, or whether we learn about what love truly is not, each is an equal gift. Either way, we have valuable insights into ourselves as well as the world around us. These days there can be so many mixed messages about love. We get bombarded through the media with all kinds of stuff about what we must be in order to be accepted and loved. None of it is very accurate. What we really need to do to enhance love in our lives is to be true to who we really are inside. And we need to know that this person will grow and change as life goes on. I know that I am certainly not the man I was 20 years ago. Nor should I be. If I was, it would be a rather pathetic statement of my ability to grow and adapt. Change is inevitable. Growth is optional. Even though I still have some of the same values as I did back then, many of my views on life and love have changed, some drastically, some in more subtle ways. And along the way, I have found that those who have tried to screw me up about love and what that is are those who have needed my help more than anyone. Yes, I have learned what love is not. But they have learned more about what love is. Hopefully everyone wins in the end, even though some lessons are more painful than others.
So be true to who you are. Love will find you better if it knows who it is it's looking for. ;-)